Okay so we had decided that my sister should move in. Things had been going well, we had a few hiccups but always worked them out. The kids had no idea who was in charge and would take advantage of the situation. My sister's boyfriend started using again, so we sat down with her and said that he was no longer allowed around any of the children. She was upset, but listened. A few days after that conversation she left! Two weeks before Christmas of 2011. She never said bye to her kids or us. I had three heartbroken boys, that didn't understand why their mom would do that. It's been a year and a half since she left. The boys are flourishing! They have hurts that I will never know but I will try to understand. I wake up knowing that I am now a mother of six. I work, I cook, I clean, I do laundry, the list goes on and on. Me and my husband now have permanent custody over Jeffery 10, Jacob 9, and Christopher 7. We aren't the everyday average family, what does that even mean? What is average? Well I know you have been waiting to see pics of these handsome fellows, so here you go!
I'm going to take a moment to let you into my head for a minute. I want you to understand who I am. I was 27 when this life changing event occurred. I had No idea what was going to happen. No one ever wants to see their sister or brother fail. To watch three little hearts get crushed! I can't even to begin to get you to understand how heart wrenching this is. My children would now have three new brothers, they would have to share their Mommy and Daddy.
Back to where I was before. My sister had committed to complete this program, it was only three months long. She ended up getting kicked out for inappropriate behavior about two months in. She had met a man in there that she had "fallen in love with." They moved into a very small motel room for about a month. I would get a call every once in awhile and I would tell her that she needed to find another program. Once she had left the original program I would not let the three boys talk to her. How would I tell them that she chose a man over them, that they weren't worth getting better for? Finally the call saying that she had found a program that would take her and her boyfriend! I was so excited! I told the boys that mommy found a new program and it might take a little longer but mommy was going to get better. A month later we received a call from the Pastor that my sister was Pregnant. Stop just for a second, I was furious! How do you tell these boys that mommy was going to have another baby? How was she going to provide for them all? These thoughts were running through my head.
My sister called us and told us that she was pregnant about a week after the Pastor broke the news to us. She didn't know what to do, it wasn't in her plans of things to do. She said that she would still finish the program and she did. She was released and had no where to go. Where would she go? Me and my husband talked about letting her stay with us and decided that that would be the best thing for her. We told her that there would be rules, the three boys were doing very well under our instruction and that they would still be under our direction for awhile. We said that we would slowly direct them back to her. She agreed and moved in.
Okay where were we? Oh yeah, we had completed our family and we were happy. A little over two years ago I had gotten a call from my sister. My sis had a hard life and it often showed in the way she lived and the things that she depended on. Back to the call, she was using her desperate voice, CPS had been called and she was terrified that they were going to take her kids away. She knew that they would find out what she had been into. I told her that Me and my husband, Rich, would take the three boys until she cleaned up. She agreed.
Wait, did you get that? I just said I would raise someones kids for them! I didn't hesitate, they were my nephews. We had my sis meet someone involved in getting her hooked up with a Christian Shelter. She entered the program angry and not knowing when she would see the kids again. I told her that she needed to take this step to a better life. It was an emotional time for those little boys. We took them to see her pretty often. Visits would be stressful because they would revert to acting out and misbehaving. They didn't understand. My simple life of raising three kids was Over. My world and everyone in it was turned upside down.
Hi my name is Emily, I am part of the Marketing Department of Sensory Goods. I am honored that they chose me to write one of the first blogs. Let me just open the door and welcome you into My World. It consists of my husband, my SIX children, and my job. Really it's not That bad, it's just really busy! Me and my husband have been married for 10 years this coming July.
Yeah that's us! Our lives are one awesome roller coaster ride! Each and every day is a learning experience for me; being a wife and a mother. It was never in my Wildest dreams to have 6 children. So let me explain how this came to be. Me and my husband have been blessed with three kiddos of our own. Heidi who is 11, Chloe who is 9, and Isaac who is 7. We had talked and decided that Isaac would be the last addition to our family, so we took the steps to make sure there would be no more Little Howell's running around! Little did we know Big things were happening.....